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4 Ways to Be More Attractive...Now. 

This house gets a lot of magazines.

Between my reading addiction, my cousin and her used-to-live-in-boyfriends' subscriptions, we have a table full of everything from Shape to W to...Horse.*

I read something like 300 pages of material a day. If something is in front of me, it will get read.** So I've made my way through about a year of some of the fitness mags here.

Generally, these magazines claim to be about health and feeling good. But from all I can see, it's just more of the same.

I know I'm not the first one making this observation (duh), but I've been working in media since 2007--I even had a job in med school because, apparently, I hate free time--and it gets frustrating how many ways the same message can be re-packaged.

I could give you a hundred examples just from the magazines sitting on the coffee table, but you've all seen it. So I'll spare you (...but HOLY HELL, photoshopped Kelly Bensimon photoshoot. WTF?!).



I start to think that fashion magazines are less innocuous than some of the fitness and health mags simply because they don't *pretend* to be about health when they're really just about ways you can lose weight and things you can buy. There's less of a charade.

Instead of a glossy cover, I have a blog.

And instead of trying to change the way you look, I think I can change the way you feel. Here are some ways to feel more attractive now.

  1. Believe in your value: If you think you suck, there is no diet, no beauty secret, no relationship that will make you feel better. You have to honestly believe in your own value before anyone else will. You can do this by refusing to degrade yourself. You can also do this by valuing health over your appearance...Your appearance follows health, trust me on this.

  2. Attractive is an attitude: Speaking of your appearance, people might be initially drawn to the way you look, but people who only like the way you look make bad company. Instead, do the things you love to do and the people who will love you will be there waiting to find you there. It works. I promise there are people who will love you because you're you. And, being around these people will make you feel happier and more attractive. Go find them. Forget the other bullshit.

  3. Be nice (dammit): I used to make fun of Giuliana Rancic a lot. Even though I wish she wouldn't give "advice" about being healthy when her diet/exercise plan were *clearly* not, I realized it's not really her fault that she had issues with her body. Anyway, my point is this: sometimes if you're feeling bad, the best way to turn it around is to say or do something nice for someone else. Try it today. It's free and you don't need to lose 10 lbs before you can do it.

  4. Smile: Maybe I could have filed this under Item 2 up there, but I think it deserves it's own thing. True, that vampire dude in Twilight got a lot of play out of his broody face, and his girlfriend wrote the book on sulking and pouting but, in real life, you will feel better about yourself and be more attractive to thers if you just f*cking smile. Have nothing to smile about? Have you ever HEARD of the internet? Here you go. You're welcome.

So, while I think everyone should probably try their best to be healthy and exercise, you do not need to wait to feel more attractive. You do not need to "save" it for "when" you lose weight, get better clothes, or...anything.

Just start.

*Yes, there is a magazines called Horse. No, it's not a gay porn publication. Yes, we own horses AND live in LA. Whatever, they're noble creatures.

**Except for those nephrology case studies. Oops. Sorry, Dr. Ardolino.


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